The decision must be made in the struggle of a woman’s own heart. Is reflected in the value that she sees in herself? Does she gamble with that value by chancing sleeping with a man before he offers her his value? Men are designed as territorial creatures. Anything that he values he claims it and puts his name on it. So does the woman gamble with her heart and hope that the man she chooses to give herself too would in return give his heart too? Or will she wind up being simply a toy that he can come to and let out all of his frustrations on? That’s if she is lucky to have a repeat experience. Many simply find themselves as being left with the memory of a wet spot. Because she gave her heart, her mind, and her soul to a man, while all he gave her was his flesh and maybe some of his money.
If women would value themselves more and look to giving themselves what they give to men, there would not be as many broken hearts. Not so much baby mama drama. Women should not look to anyone except God to give them what they cannot give to themselves. Because He is the only one who can.
Love begins within. You cannot give what you do not have inside of you. The cup runs over. You will drain any man dry trying to get him to fill your cup if you are not contributing to your own cup. A woman’s cup must be full before she comes to the man. When a woman’s cup is full, she has no reason to look for a man. Men love the chase. He cannot chase a woman if she is standing in his face. Constantly on his phone, trying to keep tabs on what he is doing. If he chases, he has to look for her. He has to find her. He has to run after her. If she is on the phone and keeping tabs on him, then he knows where she is. She is not going anywhere.
Here’s a scenario. A hunter does not go out to hunt and bring home bounty that has been lying around. Nor does a hunter take pride in bringing home anything that he has not caught himself. The joy in any sport is the fact that the men had to work for it. They had to exert some type of energy to attain it. That is when he takes it home and sets it up in his house.